Why Counselling?

Thank you for making it this far. Asking for help takes courage.

There are many reasons why a person might seek counselling.

Most people have counselling to help resolve and work through experiences from their past, worries about their future, or the things that trouble them in the here and now. Some people simply want to have the space to talk things through and be heard, in a space that is separate from their every day life.

I offer support around specific issues such as:

  • Identity issues

  • Gender issues

  • Sexuality issues

  • Issues around kink/kinky identities, lifestyles or practices

  • Relationship issues, including open relationships, consensual non-monogamy and polyamory

  • Bereavement and grief

  • Depression

  • Anxiety

  • Isolation

  • Stress from systemic oppression and/or capitalism

  • Work-related issues

  • Major life changes

  • Making sense of and finding meaning in your experiences

  • Integration of psychedelic experiences

  • Lack of confidence

  • Anxiety over politics or the political climate

  • Burnout

  • Worry over ecology, ecological collapse and the state of the environment

  • Fear, stress, trauma or anxiety around the pandemic, lockdowns and COVID-19

  • Meaning and purpose

Please get in touch if your issue is not listed above or if you are not sure. Some people don’t have a specific issue but would just like space to explore, and that’s something I offer too.

There are some issues that I am currently not working with; these are active addictions, active eating disorders, PTSD.

What is counselling?

Counselling sessions are a space for you to talk about what is troubling you, in a confidential and affirming way. I will be with you as you explore issues and problems in your life. Together we will create a space where you can explore your true self.

Counselling is not about giving advice or guidance, but rather helping and supporting you to listen to yourself more truly so that you can find solutions for yourself. Therapy is one structure of support and self-care for you as an individual; it is not a replacement for systemic change, community, and collective support.

Above all, counselling is about looking at what is really going on for you in a place that is separate and different from your day-to-day life and relationships.

The counselling room is an experimental space where you can say what you need to say. All parts of you are welcome: you can use the time and space as you wish to explore what you need to.

In our first session together, we’ll have chat about what this might look like. I’ll also ask you what issues you would like to work on and about any goals you might have.

Appointments for 50 minutes over Zoom and are usually weekly. I can offer adjustments if you’d prefer this. I work in an open-ended way: so having as many or as few appointments as you need, for as long as you need.

What next?

If you would like to make an appointment, please contact me.

I offer a free 20-minute consultation videocall over Zoom before you commit to your first counselling appointment.

During this call, I’ll ask you (in broad terms) why you are looking for counselling. You’ll be able to ask me questions too, and together we can decide whether we are a good match for working together.

After the call, if we are a good fit, I’ll email to offer you a date and time for our first session, and a copy of my client agreement which details the terms and conditions of working together.

The date and time I offer you will be yours each week, for as long as you want it.

My fees are £70 per session. Low cost appointments are available: please ask me if this is something you are interested in.

A note about ‘conversion therapy’

Unfortunately, conversion therapy – the practice of trying to convert someone’s gender or sexuality through therapy – is still legal in the UK. I stand against conversion therapy in all its forms and offer an affirmative space for people of all genders, sexualities, sexual preference and relationship type to explore freely as wanted.

“We do not grow absolutely, chronologically. We grow sometimes in one dimension, and not in another; unevenly. We grow partially. We are relative. We are mature in one realm, childish in another. The past, present, and future mingle and pull us backward, forward, or fix us in the present. We are made up of layers, cells, constellations.”

Anais Nin